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Jeff, she hears you no matter where you are. Just as you had found out yourself. She was never mad at you, just sad that she had gone so soon, leaving you and little Chris here by yourself. Remember that...and you will feel better.
No one is criticizing you, you are doing everything you can already.
| September 17 2004 (224) e |
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两个月，我告诉过你的，我一定会作到，你告诉过我的，我也一定会作到，你心里想的，我也会一定作到。
CHRIS很好，我会让她快乐幸福，你明白我的。我也很好，你了解我的。
| September 17 2004 (223) e |
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Healing Process. | | | | |
The best healing process for Jeff right now is facing himself and Ring's tragic accident. He needs to slowly accept the fact of Ring's death by openly talking about his feeling and his perception of the accident.
Facing the reality and carefully guiding his emotions that he has toward his wife to a proper venue is most critical thing for Jeff to overcome. His greatest strengths and supports will come from his friends since he has many good friends around him.
I'm encouraging his friends to spend more times with him, making him feel that he's needed and well cared. Encouraging Jeff to talk about Ring's, don' t let him "hide" from his real emotions, it won't be good for him in the long run. For examples, let him tell you the stories about their first date, allowing him to express his sadness and laughters.
Openly accepting his emotions and talking to someone when he's alone is essential to a better healthier life.
| September 16 2004 (222) e |
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lou-huixin | | | | |
心痛、心痛！如此优秀的女孩儿如此早逝。想来如何不心痛！愿优秀的小蜗牛在天国永远快乐，愿她的亲人顺利渡过这一痛苦阶段，多多保重！ 楼
| September 16 2004 (221) e |
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Rangzhongke Renmanli |  | | | |
We are LIN"sfather and mether,we thank Edle's speapping.This's veary ture.There is from head,too think teak.wishs JEff quaiklly well.AS WE are.
17SEP
| September 16 2004 (220) e |
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Jeff,不知为何，每隔几天，我就会在夜深人静的时候来这里看看，想知道你过得好不好。 从你的日记里看出：你过得很苦！我不知道该如何来劝慰你，因为我每次来这里也总会流泪。。。
你说得对：人生能有几个10年？ 值得怀念的是牛牛给了你她最黄金的10年！她的生命会在你们女儿的身上延续。。。。。。好好爱惜自己！
| September 16 2004 (219) e |
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edel | | | | |
jeff， 在灾难变故面前，我们就是这么微小的。总是觉得这一切之后该是有个原因，
有个意味。而且回忆失去过程， 总觉得那里面， 那过程有许多是我们可以改变的。
早晨起来是最虚弱的。 想着以前喝茶吃饭那么简单的事情现在都变得这么可望不可
及， 总以为有出路， 总以为这一切应该有个出路， 白日做梦地想着奇迹发生。我
不知道你该怎么办， 我想来这里看你和ring的人都不知道该怎么办。不知你怎样熬
过这一劫。 许多朋友说了许多安慰的话，可那都不管用。ring在你那里是最好的朋
友， 最习惯的家， 是一切鲜活的记忆，是你对生活的出口入口。心痛极了， 看你
的日记。 不知道应该建议你怎么办， 真的其实没有办法的。
我能想象中你怎么样在心里重放一切快乐的镜头， 还有失去她的镜头。那么一遍遍
的。。。这个灾难太大了一些， 太不可修复了一些。
那天在newsweek上看到一篇关于儿童教育的小文章， 主题是说在小孩十岁以前不要
教育孩子说什么：某些动物濒临灭绝， 因为人类杀害之类的话， 因为小孩子是不
能理解这些的。只用教育小孩热爱自然就好了。其中他引用一个教育工作者的建议：
对十岁以前的小孩子不要讲述悲剧， 因为他们的小脑子里是不会理解这些的， 这
些会对他们的性格有着你不能预料的结果---就是因人而异吧。
看到这一句我就想到你责任实在是重大的， 你该怎么样自己带大chris，让她快快
乐乐，而不是在一种悲剧中倍受宠爱(老人容易这样)。。。把注意力放在教育chris上
吧，这样或许日子容易一些。其实失去父亲或者母亲的孩子自己是感不到这种悲伤
的， 因为太小太小。 我记得小时候我的悲伤来自我妈妈和奶奶的悲伤， 而不是没
有父亲， 因为我很想让他们快乐。所以，你要把自己照顾好才能照顾好别人。你和
chris相依为命，你快乐她才能快乐，并且不是假装的， 人都敏感得很。我知道很
难，但努力总还是可以做到的吧。
你有过快乐的十年，象你说的， 人其实没几个十年， 更别的能有几个快乐的十年。
你那么纯粹的幸福满足许多人可能从来都没有过。Ring很幸运， 你也很幸运。
| September 15 2004 (218) e |
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standbyme | | | | |
觉得上天对蜗牛是如此厚爱，让她在很尽兴快乐的一刻离去。
这世上能有几个人得到如此殊遇。
| September 14 2004 (217) e |
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lilicapri | | | | |
I dreamt of you last night. Seems so real yet when I woke up, everything went back to normal. I wasstill lying there alone. I wasn't sure if you were telling me something because i was there or I was just too tired. Deep down, I wish it was you who came to my dream and kindly told me that everything was fine with you in heaven. Finally saw Chris, I must say she's a little beauty like you are. Everyone still cares about you, Jeff, and Chris.
| September 13 2004 (216) e |
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musicon | | | | |
无意听到这首You Are SO Beautiful, 听着听着就想到了你, 你的笑容就在脑海里一一闪现. 很久没有来看你了. 是故意克制的. 因为每次来我都会TEARS, 而我不希望自己天天脆弱不堪, 人要坚强. 至少努力去做. . 也许我是给你的美征服了吧, 当然这里的美不仅仅是美丽的外表. 它代表你的一切一切..
You Are SO Beautiful
In My Heart..
我只是一个未曾聊过天儿的网友, 尚且如此.. 那么我也可以想象, 你的亲人会有怎样的感受. . 保重吧, 叔叔, 阿姨! 保重吧, JEFF!!! 为了小蜗牛, 也要微笑着去生活. 相信RING并没有走远. 她永远活在亲人和朋友们的心里. 也祈祷她在天堂安宁, 快乐!
| September 12 2004 (215) e |
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